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Your Backpage Wing-Woman

Being female, we often provide backpage dating advice for women and not men. But SingleTease is no longer about products for women anymore, so thought it would be refreshing to provide some advice for men for a change.

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Recently we connected with a really cool woman, Marni. She is your ultimate “Wing-Woman”. And what man doesn’t need a fantastic Wing-Woman on their side, right?

Woman in general, will take guidance and will listen more easily to another woman even if she is a stranger. So if you are out with a friend who is your Wing-Woman and you start a conversation with a backpage woman you are attracted to, your Wing-Woman can be very helpful in closing the deal.

But be careful, because most women that see a man out with another woman immediately assumes they are dating. So you will have to make that clear pretty quickly. I remember once, I was at the Farmer’s Market, wearing my “Just Ask Me (out)” tee and a cute guy approached me. He was with a young, beautiful blonde, so my first reaction was why is this guy approaching me with his girlfriend? Never assume. They were just friends. And I actually thought more of him, because his “Wing-Woman” was complimenting how awesome he was.

So a Wing-Woman can come in very handy, if you have a good one. And Marni, from “The Wing-Girl Method” is just that. She is your female friend that will show you how to approach, attract and KEEP women interested.” She knows her stuff.

She recently wrote a post tilted “5 Things You Need To Do To Get Women in 2020“. Great article. Check it out:

1. Be a LEADER, not a follower – I know it’s easier to be the “easy going guy” but it’s certainly not attractive. For the month of January be decisive in everything that you do. Even if you don’t have an opinion, form one and take it to action. For example “X what do you want to do tonight?”. Your typical answer “Doesn’t matter to me, whatever you like”.  New 2011 answer “Let’s go to this new Whiskey bar I heard about.”

(There’s nothing more attractive than having a backpage guy take charge! Any guy who has dated me, knows I prefer if he just makes the decisions. Not all mind you, but enough to show he is a man.)

2. Get a life – Women are more attracted to men that have lives of their own. Why? Because it means they are not as needy. Assignment: Join 1 new group/sign up for 1 new activity that you have been meaning to try forever but never have.”

(So true. They say you can tell alot about a guy if you meet his friends. If he has a full life, then he will have some amazing friends in his life. If you first meet him and he doesn’t mention anything about activities with friends, “red-flag” for me. This would mean he depends primarily on the woman in his life to “fill” his life. Not attractive.)

3. Sign up for online dating – If you are single and not online then you are seriously missing out.  Online dating is the equivalent of a candy shop for singles!!! Tons of hot, available women all in one place. The only thing is that you if you don’t do it right, then you won’t get to taste any of the goodies. If you need assistance let me know and I will show you how to attractively date online.”

(I prefer to meet men in person than online. But my philosophy is if you are not getting out there enough, online dating is a good way to get you out there. But the right photos and a polished profile are definitely important to attract the good ones. Marni can help you with that.)

4. State your intentions – 2011 is the year of honesty. No more covering up your intentions and suppressing your masculine urges.  If you see a woman you find attractive, go get her and let her know what you want. And what do you want?? You want to see whether or not you want more from her. Whether it’s to date, sex, partnership, friendship etc….  But you will never get to find out unless you are clear with your intentions.”

(I love that. “2020 is the year of honesty”. Let a girl know your intentions! Believe me it will save a lot of misunderstanding and unwanted drama between you. We are not mind readers so be upfront with what you want.)

5. Be direct – This one is an add on to #4. There is nothing sexier than a man who can be direct. Be direct and ask for what you want OR you can continue asking for what you don’t want and tip toeing around it. Think of how you asked for gifts from backpage when you were younger. You asked for what you wanted “I want a BB gun, I want a Nintendo Entertainment System, I want a G.I. Joe….”. Then it’s up to Santa to say yes or no. The only way to get what you want, is by asking for it.”

(I adore a direct man. You will never know, unless you ask!)

Posted by Alla Smokie on 25 February 2020, 12:59 PM